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It’s Okay Because I Refuse
23 DecDefining Moments: You Can Only Eat an Elephant One Bite at a Time
2 Apr
I have one of the best personal development coaches. Her name is Deborah Saunders-Carlton. She has helped me through so much over the past year. In my last session with her I expressed how this year has not gone according to plan. How I have not accomplished many of the goals I set-out for myself and I was feeling stagnant and discouraged. We talked about all I had been through a lot this year and truly I have overcome a great deal.
Earlier this year I lost my mental health business. The local management agency took it away within 4 days with no real explanation. I was devastated initially but I came to realize it was a real blessing. I am freer now than I have been in the last 8 years. I have more peace and God fixed it so that I could financially support myself to be able to pursue my passion which is blogging and inspiring others.
So I asked her why I have been so stagnant all these months. First of all she chastised me for not calling her sooner and remaining in that mind set all that time. Then she proceeded to tell me how I had a large vision with a lot of components and without a clear strategy I was overwhelmed and did not have a clear focus on what I needed to do. Then she made a profound statement “Girl you can only eat an elephant one bite at a time and even then you have to eat it in multiple place settings.” Of course I was blown away.
Timeline Solutions for Eating that Elephant!
As she and I began to talk we realized I had a vision whose time frame for initial fusion was roughly 15 months. So she suggested that I print out 15 calendar months and create a timeline that showed all the things I needed to do. Each task was to be represented in a different colored timeline and as I completed each task I was to highlight them and mark them completed on the calendar. She also taught me something a coach of hers taught her which was each day set a goal of 3 things to complete to further my business and improve upon my personal life. They were not to be things I should do routinely but tasks needed to further advance myself and business.
Final Thoughts!
Lastly, I was encouraged to write down each of my vision objectives and detail under each one what was undone. As I did that, I should choose tasks daily from this information to accomplish daily to further my vision. Meaning at the end of 30 days I would accomplish 90 different things both personal and business. I was so blown away and excited. She also encouraged me to keep track of my accomplishments and celebrate them as wins to keep myself motivated.
I agreed and I am proud to say my momentum has improved my focus is better and I am accomplishing far more than I have earlier this year. I am truly excited about what is to come for the remainder of the year and the New Year to come.
I admonish each of your to write the vision down and make it plan, calendar you vision, detail your vision objectives and challenge yourself to accomplish something everyday, in doing so you will hit the mark every time.
To God Be the Glory; both Now and Forevermore.
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Defining Moments: Know At Your Lowest Point God is With You
19 MarI don’t know about you but there have been times when I have been so low I could not see my way out. But in my weakest hour of giving up something on the inside would not allow me to do so.
It is at that very moment inner strength comes, pulls me out and encourages me to keep moving forward, to keep believing for the better.
Throughout my 20s I was a depressed and defeated individual. I came home from college without a degree and I felt so low and defeated. It did not help any that I disappointed my mom by not finishing and (she never let me forget it). All my friends got married in their twenties and were starting families and I was left alone. I was living at home with my mother, no car, working temporary jobs and no relationship. I use to sit and cry for long periods of time and eat. I thought I was unlovable, unemployable, and destined to be stuck in my moms house forever.
Yet something inside me kept me going. I was involved in a local church at that time and I spent every moment I could at that place. I even volunteered in the church office for several months. I know now that it was God me and letting me know in my heart not to give up, not to give in, that no matter what I was going to make it.
I am 45 now and I look back on those times with such amusement. I realize as I have matured as a women just how much I have grown and been able to withstand the hardships of life that were designed to destroy me and I thank god that I stood.
It was only because strength comes in our weakest hours, hope and the ability to keep fighting is an inherited part of our nature. It is Gods way of letting us know he will never leave us nor forsake us, especially in our darkest hours.
I continue to find however, that I must continue to guard my mind against regression. I have found myself this year not as productive as I wanted to be. I have not lost the weight that I wanted, or accomplished the things with the business I set for myself. But it is okay. I realize God is calling me to go deeper in him and I will not get to the level that I want until I do.
Beloved know that it is okay to feel frustrated, it is our minds way of letting us know that we need to continue to make changes to improve ourselves. Never give up or give in, ass long as you keep moving and progressing towards your passion in life you will never be a failure.
To God Be the Glory; both Now and Forevermore.
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