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It’s Okay Because I Refuse

23 Dec

Summer 2014

I have been working a contract job during the day for the last few months. I have enjoyed it but I am glad it is finally coming to an end. I was sitting at my cubicle thinking about my life. Specifically, why I am still single and how that makes me feel? In doing so I realized something as I battled through my emotional roller coaster today, It’s okay. It’s okay to be in the emotional moment. Because that does not mean the emotions of the moment represent the actual view of how I see myself.

It’s okay to get frustrated with being single, not having children and yes even fretting briefly over if I will ever be married. It’s okay to have the longing to love someone and briefly, yes briefly to pause thinking “I am not worthy or even maybe there is something wrong with me”.  Because the bottom line is there is nothing wrong with me, I am just fine.

There was a time in my life that I probably would have done just about anything to be loved and married. Meaning I would have to compromise what I knew I deserved to have it. At this point in my life I have come to understand the value of my worth. I think that is why God would not allow me to marry before now. “I unfortunately did not learn my full value until I was in my mid 30’s.” Sad I know, but I spent the majority of my life thinking I was less because people close to me always said I was, mainly because of my weight. You hear something so many times it gets deeply rooted into who you are and it is damn hard to get it out of your head.  So at this point in my life I refuse to compromise on what I deserve not just in marriage but in life. I refuse to not be the dynamic woman that I am called to be. I refuse to not be the minister God has called me to be.

I am a Pastor, a motivational speaker, a singer, a writer, and an entrepreneur. I am not the quiet and reserve Naomi following behind Ruth in the Bible.

I am Deborah at the city gates sounding the alarm!

 I refuse to be denied the same level of love, respect and devotion I give to others. I refuse to be cheated on or abused (physically or mentally). I refuse to not be respected, loved and valued in that order. I refuse to not walking according to my calling to inspire others or work to be the best I can be. I refuse to allow another person’s insecurities dictate my potential or regress me into a position to allow someone unqualified to have authority in my life.

I am so excited about my future right now because in writing this my strength has been renewed, my motivation restored, my vision revived. Because I know I am going to be Okay because I REFUSE to be otherwise.

His Bondservant,

Joan White
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Power of Positive Confession

5 Mar

Positive Confession!

move mountainsOne of the most powerful tools utilized in my life is also one that posses the greatest challenge to execute and that is the power of positive confession. As a Christian I have been taught throughout my walk with the Lord Jesus Christ that I AM WHAT GOD SAYS I AM.  In the world system, I AM WHAT I SAY I AM.  Both have validity and require action on the part of the confessor.

Even now as much as I have accomplished and through all that I have gained I still struggle with this in some parts of my life. I find myself in a constant mind battle to stay victorious in knowing that I am a powerful woman destined for greatness.

The word Power means a strength or force capable of being exerted. Confession means to disclose or acknowledge faith in something.
Translation-In us lies a strength or force cable to helps acknowledge a faith in something, often times bigger than ourselves. The key is where our power comes from and what it is we are confessing.

I am firm believer that the power is Christ Jesus and the confession is the Word of God and positive things instead of negative.

The Positive Confession of a Growing Christian

growOne of the first slogans I learned as a baby Christian was “confess it, believe it, and count it done in the name of Jesus.” I remember as a young teenager in high school confessing for good grades, confessing that the lord would bless me with whatever I needed. I was so excited back then, on fire, faith unwavering. I confessed for God to use me to do great works and to allow me to accomplish many great things. As I look back I chuckle at my naive and innocent faith.

As I have grown older and life has handed me quite a few blows (bombs is more accurate), I find that it is harder to have the fresh naive and positive outlook of my youth. As I continue to struggle with hardships and heart breaks in my life, it is difficult to stay positive and I am not ashamed to say that I have looked at my circumstances and failed to see no way out on many occasion. I have viewed positive confession as ridiculous and ineffective method to improve my circumstances many times in moments of despair and frustration.

Yet one thing has continued to remain constant for me is that even though I am down I don’t stay there. I begin to call upon the name of the Lord and say I can do all things through Christ Jesus who Strengthens me (Philippians 4:13) Even in my darkest hour as I began to confess the word about my circumstances peace would come. Hope abounds when there is an acknowledgment according to the word of God.

Negative Thinking: Positive Confession’s Greatest Enemy

negative butterflyOne of the greatest enemies of positive confession is negative thinking. It is interesting to me how the nature of man has always been to gravitate towards the negative. Yet the positive has so much more power and benefit to our lives. The bible tells us that we are born in sin and conceived in iniquity, therefore, it is in our innate nature to look gravitate towards a negative perspective first. How many times have we jumped to conclusions and automatically thought the worst, only to find out upon closer examination that things were not as bad as they seemed? I can honestly say, for myself too many times.

It feels comfortable to our flesh to dwell on the negative. How many times have we been quick to pass along the latest juice gossip and hesitant to pass along good news? It is amazing to me how easy it is to say something negative about someone and so hard to say something positive.

Here me with your heart when I say this. You must learn to overcome negative thought and speech if you ever expect to walk in your fullest potential. I cannot tell you the number of times thinking and speaking negatively has cost me opportunities and killed my momentum to develop and grow into my God ordained Destiny. The bible says that we have what we say and that death and life lie in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). This let’s me know that I have the power to change my life for the better or worst by what I say and how I think.

I have found that the more I speak the Word of God and positive life fulfilling words from my mouth the better I feel, the clearer my outlook, the better I perform and the more effective others are around me as I speak positively into their lives.

I admonish each of you to begin this day to cast down negative imaginations and begin to view the world from a more Godly and positive manner, begin confessing that the glass is have full instead of half empty and I promise that as you do your life will definitely change for the better.

To God Be the Glory; both Now and Forevermore.

Voluptuous Diva

Stay Blessed and Continue to Re-Define Yourself!

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