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It’s Okay Because I Refuse

23 Dec

Summer 2014

I have been working a contract job during the day for the last few months. I have enjoyed it but I am glad it is finally coming to an end. I was sitting at my cubicle thinking about my life. Specifically, why I am still single and how that makes me feel? In doing so I realized something as I battled through my emotional roller coaster today, It’s okay. It’s okay to be in the emotional moment. Because that does not mean the emotions of the moment represent the actual view of how I see myself.

It’s okay to get frustrated with being single, not having children and yes even fretting briefly over if I will ever be married. It’s okay to have the longing to love someone and briefly, yes briefly to pause thinking “I am not worthy or even maybe there is something wrong with me”.  Because the bottom line is there is nothing wrong with me, I am just fine.

There was a time in my life that I probably would have done just about anything to be loved and married. Meaning I would have to compromise what I knew I deserved to have it. At this point in my life I have come to understand the value of my worth. I think that is why God would not allow me to marry before now. “I unfortunately did not learn my full value until I was in my mid 30’s.” Sad I know, but I spent the majority of my life thinking I was less because people close to me always said I was, mainly because of my weight. You hear something so many times it gets deeply rooted into who you are and it is damn hard to get it out of your head.  So at this point in my life I refuse to compromise on what I deserve not just in marriage but in life. I refuse to not be the dynamic woman that I am called to be. I refuse to not be the minister God has called me to be.

I am a Pastor, a motivational speaker, a singer, a writer, and an entrepreneur. I am not the quiet and reserve Naomi following behind Ruth in the Bible.

I am Deborah at the city gates sounding the alarm!

 I refuse to be denied the same level of love, respect and devotion I give to others. I refuse to be cheated on or abused (physically or mentally). I refuse to not be respected, loved and valued in that order. I refuse to not walking according to my calling to inspire others or work to be the best I can be. I refuse to allow another person’s insecurities dictate my potential or regress me into a position to allow someone unqualified to have authority in my life.

I am so excited about my future right now because in writing this my strength has been renewed, my motivation restored, my vision revived. Because I know I am going to be Okay because I REFUSE to be otherwise.

His Bondservant,

Joan White
AKA Voluptuous Diva

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Fun Fashion Fact-History of Underwear

17 Dec

Traditionally, underwear was worn under clothing to prevent outer garments from being soiled by body secretions (such as sweat & menstruation). Other uses included: shaping the body (e.g. corsets), providing support for sporting activities (e.g. jockstraps & bras), and for layered warmth. The main purpose for underwear was simply functionality. As society, fashion, and technology evolved, so did undergarments and their uses.

The earliest form of underwear worn by mankind is presumed to be the loincloth. Often, it was the only piece of clothing worn, and only covered the genitals. Made of wool, linen, or soft leather, the simplistic loincloth has been traced back 7,000 years to ancient Egyptian, Greek, and Roman eras.

The Renaissance age gave rise to more sophisticated layered clothing. Women wore long lavish dresses, and men adorned full trouser suits. Underpants were fitted underneath formal attire, and secured with flaps, buttons, and ties.

To facilitate urination, underpants for both men and women were often made open-crotch so that entire costumes didn’t have to be unfastened and removed.

As technology advanced with the invention of new methodologies and fabrics, clothing became more fashionable than functional. Modesty soon gave way to individuality, innovation, confidence, and sex appeal. Social liberation prompted more variety, color, prints, and features in garments. New lifestyles emerged along with new pastimes.

People rejoiced in music, the arts, and self- expression. Dancers were the first to wear stockings, garter belts, and g-strings, which paved the way for sexy lingerie that we see today. Male models helped promote the allure of men’s fitted underwear, and professional fighters inspired the creation of boxer briefs. All these facets interlaced together to evolve underwear!

From humble beginnings as a plain loincloth, we now have available to us lacey panties, cotton briefs, g-strings, padded bras, thongs, silk boxers, boy-shorts, open crotch, hi-cut, low-rise, seamless, stretch, fluorescent, patterned, buttoned, crotch-less, and so many more wonderful varieties of undies. History has also shown us that “open crotch” underwear is not something new. It has just been liberated through sexy new designing, luscious fabrics, and exotic features.

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